In an ideal world, you would know when you need support because you’d feel overwhelmed and recognise the value and luxury of talking things through with a professional confidant. It is unrealistic to ‘wait’ for obvious signs of needing some help but many of us do. We live in a culture where achievement and image is considered important, and if you are in the public eye or want to be a top performer, you have too much expectation imposed on you by others, or by the desire to be perfect and consistently at the top of your game. I can help – I build your confidence but together we make a plan. With a plan you feel more in control, and control helps you feel better.
Symptoms to look for:
- Are you feeling beside yourself with anxiety or stress?
- Do you feel things are sliding out of your control?
- Are you prone to flying off the handle and feel your anger is getting the better of you?
- Do you feel resentment towards a person or situation?
- Are you in a relationship breakdown?
- Do you have unrealistic pressures on you?
You could also feel unable to sleep, feel restless and know you cannot find peace in your head from troublesome thoughts, or you recognise you’re at a crossroads but don’t know which road to take. These are common and understandable but they can be eased and change.
Truthfully, none of us are experts at everything.
Seeking help is not a sign of weakness. It is a sign of courage to honour the desire to want to feel better about your life. It is your right to live your life on your terms.
Stress is often a cumulative, silent problem that increases tension in our bodies, reduces practical and pragmatic thinking and overwhelms us with tiredness when we need to be at our optimal best. Most of us develop a ‘face’ we show the public and one we feel in private as if we dare not show our real feelings
When suffering from prolonged stress, we are prone to becoming angry, making poor judgements, making mistakes, repeating dysfunctional patterns of behaviour, forming addictions, communicating badly (or not at all), sleeping badly, gaining, or losing weight, blaming others, becoming withdrawn, unhappy, even depressed and we show anxiety and confusion in everything we do… This can affect our well-being, but also our relationships and the way we handle our loved ones.
From a business perspective, this condition can affect the bottom line of the organisation as much as you. This is not a compulsory state to remain in no matter what your to-do list looks like.
The Core Process
You are different to other people and your needs are different, but I work with a proven, interactive, psychological process, tailored to suit your needs. Clients have called me care-frontational as well as inspirational and I can work with you at my practice in central London, online or at your office.
From our first session, ideally conducted face to face, although not essential so Skype or Zoom works too. It is a completely candid (very open) diagnostic, problem solving session. It is essential that we establish complete trust and rapport so that we can tackle the issues you are experiencing NOW.
In this session, I encourage a subjective assessment of what triggers stress for you, coupled with some detail of your background and experiences that you wish to share from the past. This frank and honest historical information is essential because it goes toward my determining your approach in the past to handling, and dealing with problems; identifying your personality traits, and your communication or working style.
At the end of your first session you will have an action plan for how to tackle (without anger or difficult confrontation), the immediate issues causing you stress or distress in your life.
You may also have learnt Cardiac Coherence, which refers to a state fo calm when your heart has a more regular rhythm. I teach this using a simple tool that picks up your heart rate and gives you a visual guide to follow whilst lowering your breathing rate. Stress induces anxiety, makes your heart beat faster which makes it harder to regain composure. In this way it gives you a tool for life for immediate and intermediate stress management.
From our second session, which may be 2 weeks to a month later, we will update and tackle current issues. This is always a priority so that you feel you can leave our meetings with strategies for tackling immediate issues and situations. Longer term strategies are a bonus yet in general, my clients want FAST & EFFECTIVE answers. Further sessions are recommended if you would benefit from obtaining longer term support, have a difficult and prolonged issue you wish to tackle such a relationship problem, or you want to take things slowly and bite off smaller chunks that push you over time.